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понедельник, 08 июня 2015

18:12

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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среда, 03 июня 2015

16:42

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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воскресенье, 31 мая 2015

01:14

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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понедельник, 25 мая 2015

15:29

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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15:27

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

Have you been eating well? If not, eat a piece of fruit or a handful of nuts. You need vitamins; you need protein. You’re probably not drinking enough water. When is the last time you showered? Take a cold shower to wake you up or a hot shower if you need to relax. Do the laundry that’s been piling up. You’ve been wearing that sweatshirt for too long. Take care of the dishes in the sink that have been there for three days and have started to stress you out. Did you brush your teeth this morning? How about your hair? Listen to the messages on your phone that have been there for days. Go outside for at least a couple minutes. You don’t even have to do anything; just sit down. Breathe in the fresh air and get some vitamin D. Open your blinds. Your room is too dark and it’s probably making you tired. Spend some time with your pet. Pet them, feed them, take them for a walk or clean out their litterbox. Caring for them will make you feel useful and responsible and give you something to do. The self-care posts that tell you to take a bath and eat chocolate and read a book are good, but do what needs to be done first. Eating chocolate when you haven’t showered in four days and you can’t remember when the last time you changed your underwear was won’t make you feel better. It will probably make you feel worse. Clean yourself up; clean your surroundings up. Then take care of the little things. Tackle life one thing at a time. x

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среда, 13 мая 2015

00:25

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вторник, 12 мая 2015

23:12

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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пятница, 01 мая 2015

23:38

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

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суббота, 25 апреля 2015

14:55

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суббота, 18 апреля 2015

22:06

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воскресенье, 22 марта 2015

12:44

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Финансовая сторона путешествий. Многих волнует, как люди живут в путешествиях:
- Находите работу на месте?
- Папа миллионер?
- За счет добрых людей?
- А у меня друг по 200 тысяч тратит за 2 месяца, а ты говоришь 15 тысяч на все лето?

Лично я всегда работал в России, решал, когда и куда я собираюсь отправиться, и ставил себя перед фактом, что сколько бы денег у меня не было к моменту, когда нужно уезжать, это будет то, что я возьму с собой. Без разницы, сколько “говорят”, что надо бы взять, неважно, кто из знакомых сколько потратил. Я на опыте убедился в том, что ты тратишь в поездке столько денег, сколько берешь с собой. Было бы 200 тысяч, потратил бы 200 тысяч. Хотя нет, вряд ли, я просто знаю, что можно их потратить более продуктивно, чем на пребывание в Европе. В этот раз у меня другая ситуация, в сравнении со всеми теми поездками, что были раньше. Об этом я напишу отдельно чуть позже. Но я до сих пор не могу понять, почему, собираясь путешествовать ты думаешь не о путешествии, а о деньгах. Я привык иначе, я знаю что все разрешится, не знаю как, но узнаю чуть позже.

Что касается путешествий с комфортом. Для меня понятия путешествие и комфорт вещи противоположные. Почему? Лично я еду не за комфортом, а за опытом. Жизнь для меня - поле для экспериментов. Только и всего. Я не вижу никаких других причин тут находиться, кроме того, чтобы испытывать, как можно больше, видеть как можно больше, понимать, как можно больше, любить, как можно больше, радоваться как можно больше, создавать, как можно больше. Вот и все.

Для меня путешествия с комфортом - туризм. Я не скажу, что я предпочту хорошей кровати сон на вокзале, но что-то предпринимать для этого я, пожалуй, не стану. Но, если подвернется возможность, то конечно выберу, что удобнее. Кто знает, когда в следующий раз я буду спать в уюте.

Есть куча вещей, которые могут позволить вам справляться с возникающими трудностями. Не проблемами, а всего лишь трудностями, как ступенями в парадной. Когда я говорю про опыт, я говорю именно об этом восхождении: чем больше ступеней преодолено, тем выше ты становишься, тем шире становится твой взгляд на мир, тем объективнее ты становишься в его восприятии, что означает, что ты приближаешься к его сущности ближе, потому что с каждым новым опытом у тебя словно становится больше глаз и ушей, больше рук и ног.

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пятница, 06 марта 2015

18:18

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

Единственный, кто поступал разумно, был мой портной. Он снимал с меня мерку заново каждый раз, когда видел меня,
в то время как все остальные подходили ко мне со старыми мерками, ожидая, что я им буду соответствовать. Бернард Шоу

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четверг, 12 февраля 2015

19:30

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— Go to bed early and consistently. Seriously, I cannot stress this enough. Staying up late was probably the worst thing I did for my health, because I’d want to sleep all day and that will cut in on your study time, which will stress you out and just generally snowball into general awfulness. You don’t have to be in bed by like, 8, but try to shoot for 10 or 11. I found 10 works best for me. Try to wake up at the same time every day, too, depending on how many hours of sleep you need. This will vary from person to person. My best friend only needs like 5 hours of sleep to function fine. I need more like 8 or 9. That’s okay. Don’t let yourself feel bad for needing more sleep.
— Budget your time wisely. One thing I like to do at the start of every semester is bust open Google Calendar and enter all my classes and my work schedules (this can also be done in Excel, just fill in the days and hours as your first row and column). Then I look at all the blank space. Those blank spaces are going to be my critical study periods. If you use Google Calendar and have a smartphone, you also have the benefit of setting up alarms so you know when and where you need to be at any given moment. I don’t even bother remembering where I need to go anymore; I just make my phone tell me.
— Start assignments the second you get them. Even if it’s just printing things that you need out or writing your name at the top of the worksheet or whatever. Do something with your homework. The hardest part of any assignment is getting started, but once you do you might find yourself building a little momentum. If you don’t, don’t force it if you don’t have to. Some days you might, especially on time-sensitive work.
— Plan. Everything. It doesn’t matter how. Buy a planner. Use an online planner or app or something. I actually use two things: A physical planner (right now I’m trying Passion Planner), and Any.Do. For Any.Do, I have folders for every class I’m taking, and I entered all the important tasks and due dates for each class in (exams, project due dates, anything big, set-in-stone events you can find in the syllabus). I also have it set up to remind me a day in advance, so I’m never surprised. My physical planner is used for homework and day-to-day, smaller assignments. This system works really well for me, but it might not for you. There will probably be a trial and error period where you find your groove.
+++— Do as much work on campus/at school as humanly possible. I know some people are more productive at home. I am not one of those people. When I go home, I am done for the day. I might work a little bit if I couldn’t finish everything I wanted to on campus, or if I’m just sick of campus and wearing pants, but for the most part I try to get as much done on campus as I possibly can. I find it to be a much more productive environment for me; I don’t screw around nearly as much.
— Eat. It might sound kind of silly, but seriously. Eat. Eat breakfast. Eat lunch. Eat dinner. Eat snacks. And buy foods you know you’re going to eat: I have a very sensitive stomach in the morning (I always wake up nauseous), but I know there are certain foods I can choke down in the morning, like bagels and granola bars. I keep my pantry stocked with those things. They’re quick to eat, easy to prepare, and I can have a hot breakfast if I want or not. Sometimes a hot meal can make all the difference. And definitely on high spoon days make as much food as you can. Low-spoon you will thank high-spoon you for the leftovers. Also try to sneak in as many fruits and vegetables as you possibly can, even if you don’t like them. I love vegetables, so it’s not a problem for me to eat them, but I hate…HATE…HATEfruit. Passionately. But I can tolerate like…banana-chocolate smoothies (I make them with chocolate flavored Carnation Instant Breakfast for a vitamin boost), or like…apples and cinnamon in oatmeal. If you’re anti-veggie (how dare you) (jk), sneak them into meals by adding them into pasta dishes. Add salsa to tacos. Wilt some spinach or mix some broccoli into your fettucini alfredo. But definitely try to get in some fruits and veggies. Your health should always come first.
— Make a good study playlist. People’s tastes tend to vary, but having music or at the very least white noise can make or break a study session. I personally like the ambient channel on Pandora; it’s got soft, relaxing music without words so I don’t get distracted and try to sing along. But sometimes even that’s too much, and I’ll use Simply Noise (a free white noise generator) to just have some kind of sound running in the background. I get distracted very easily by people speaking, or miscellaneous noises happening around me, so I need to drown those out. I actually prefer the brown noise over the white noise though; the pitch is a lot lower, and doesn’t hurt my ears.
— Take care of yourself as much as you can on the weekends. I use the weekends probably about 80% for self-care and 20% for homework and studying. I let myself sleep in an extra hour, do fun and relaxing things, take a bath, whatever you like to do. If you budget your time wisely (your planner will come in handy for that), you can fudge it so you have more spare time on the weekends. Sometimes it won’t work out that way, and you’ll have to dedicate full weekends to working. That’s okay. Just try to be a little more gentle on yourself throughout the week.
— Take a daily vitamin. If you forget to eat or just can’t bear the idea of making something (which I totally get), at least make sure you’re getting the basic vitamins and minerals your body needs. B-vitamins, Vitamin C and Vitamin D are the top three most important that come to mind for me. I also recommend finding vitamins with iron, but mostly because I have trouble with anemia. Vitamins with iron can be tricky to find though, especially if you have difficulty swallowing pills (I have yet to find a gummy vitamin that contains iron, even for adults). But gummies are totally an option and I highly recommend them! It’s like starting your day off with candy.
— Speak to a guidance counselor or see if your university has a disability services you could register with to receive accommodations for your illness. This is probably one of those things most people don’t think of, but it’s so amazingly helpful during bad times. My university has a department called Disability Services, and if you have a documented illness that affects your performance in school (my university considers depression and mental illness a disability), you can register with them and receive certain accommodations to help sort of even the playing field between you and healthy students, and it is COMPLETELY confidential. I, for example, am allotted a few extra excused absences, and a few extra minutes to get to classes or take exams. I have so far only used these services once or twice, but the fact that I have them is a huge weight off my mind. See if your school does something similar.
— Try to get some gentle exercise in a few times a week. This is kind of hypocritical for me to say because I have the most horrible relationship with exercise you’ve ever seen, but it really can make a difference. Go for a gentle walk, or do some stretches, or dance around your room in your underwear while passionately singing into your hairbrush (…not that I do that or anything). Just get up and move a little. Personally, I consider my hikes to and from classes enough exercise, but this semester I’m trekking back and forth across campus a LOT. I am trying to get back into yoga though.
— Learn it. Do it. Teach it. When I was a Girl Scout, my mom (our troop leader), set forth three rules in order for us to earn badges. First, we had to learn how to do something; be it tying knots or starting a fire. Then, we had to do it to prove that we could. Then, we had to teach someone else how to do it, usually in a workshop our troop would host. By doing those three things, we really solidified that knowledge into our brains, and honestly? I graduated Girl Scouts almost six years ago, and I still know how to make a bandanna bandage and how to build a lean-to style fire. So if you’re having trouble remembering things, use this method. And if the idea of teaching someone something is scary, teach your pet. Teach your stuffed animal. Hell, teach your wall. It’ll be better if you have like an actual person so you can see if they’re understanding it as well as you need to, but if someone’s not available, screw it. I used to teach my sister everything I learned in Italian when I was studying it in high school. She was like four. The child barely had a good grasp on English. Didn’t matter to me. Still doesn’t.
— Don’t be afraid or ashamed of taking care of yourself. This is probably the hardest habit to adapt for anyone struggling with depression, because our whole mindset is based around shame. Nobody likes having to take a day off because they can’t keep up with “normal” people (and I say “normal” with THE BIGGEST AIR QUOTES EVER). But you know what? Sometimes you have to. If you’re up at three in the morning sobbing your brains out because you don’t think you can keep going anymore and the whole world feels like it’s closing in on you, then holy shit step back for a moment. Take some breaths. Hug a stuffed animal. Then email your professors to let them know you’re not coming in tomorrow, call off work if you have to (tell them you have a cold, fuck it, you as a person is more important than you as an employee), and go to bed. Then use the next day to take care of yourself. Work on stuff if you feel up to it, but don’t if you don’t. Person-You should always be top priority. Not Student-You, not Employee-You, not Any-Other-Category-You, nothing. You are always a human first, and sometimes you need a mental health day. It happens.
— Reach out. If you’re having a bad day, talk to someone. Vent to a friend or a family member. Talk to a counselor, be it on-campus or off. You don’t have to spill your guts and explain every negative thought you’re having (I personally feel really uncomfortable doing that), but you can still voice little annoyances you had during the day and you’ll feel better. For example, if I’m having a really bad day emotionally, I’ll talk to my mom or my best friend and like…complain about the parking situation on campus, or some other minor annoyance that happened to me. Then they’ll complain too, and before we both know it we’re cracking jokes about the horrible parking situation or how unbelievably bad it smells in the math building and we’re both laughing and I feel much better. Even if I’m not addressing the exact problem, I’ve still managed to boost my mood enough that maybe I feel brave enough to talk about those problems, or just address them on my own time, or even just realize that things aren’t as bad as they felt a few hours ago. My communications professor (and friend of mine) always says this: A positive attitude can and will make all the difference. She’s right.
— Use the pomodoro method of studying. A lot of people recommend it to prevent burnout, but I think it’s doubly important for people who get overwhelmed easily. I can’t focus on things for more than half an hour. The pomodoro method says to study for twenty-five minutes, then take a five-minute break. I find this works very well for me. You might need to tweak the times to fit your needs better, but generally speaking it’s best to study in smaller clumps with frequent breaks in between than it is to cram everything into six solid hours.
— Stay hydrated. Drink water! It’s good for your brain and your body. Don’t like water? Flavor it! My mom hates water but knows she needs to drink more, so she adds grape flavored Propel powder to her water, and I think that’s a fair compromise (she calls it her “purple water” (‘: ). Green tea is also acceptable; I like mine iced with a little Splenda and some lemon, but lately I’ve been on a huge water kick. Try to carry a bottle with you to your classes and stuff, too. I just use an old 16-ounce Dasani bottle I bought ages ago (if you do use old plastic bottles like this, try to recycle it after a few uses cuz the plastic will start to disintegrate).
— Be proud of yourself. What you’re doing is not easy. Going to school and getting good grades comes easier to some than others, but it is not in and of itself “easy”. It’s even harder when you’re mentally unwell. You’re amazing, and don’t ever forget that. Praise yourself often, because like L’Oreal says, you’re WORTH IT! GOOD JOB YOU.

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вторник, 10 февраля 2015

16:17

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суббота, 10 января 2015

00:42

If fate doesn't make you laugh, then you just don't get the joke.

1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise. 2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable. 3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it. 4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else. 5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything. 6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice. 7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small. 8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full. 9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle. 10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck. 11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog. 12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through. 13. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything. 14. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends. 15. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you. x

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